{"id":3220,"date":"2025-04-16T13:40:20","date_gmt":"2025-04-16T13:40:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/walkingshadowpoetry.com\/blog\/?p=3220"},"modified":"2025-04-16T13:40:23","modified_gmt":"2025-04-16T13:40:23","slug":"they-stopped-choosing-you-by-walking-shadow-poetry","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/walkingshadowpoetry.com\/blog\/they-stopped-choosing-you-by-walking-shadow-poetry\/","title":{"rendered":"They stopped choosing you by walking shadow poetry"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>They might just fade away\u2026<br>Not with fireworks or grand announcements,<br>Not with explanations that wrap everything up with a neat bow,<br>But with a silence that sneaks in slowly,<br>A silence that starts small, missed calls, shorter texts, longer gaps,<br>Until one day, you realize it&#8217;s not silence anymore&#8230; it&#8217;s absence<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>At first, you might find yourself scrolling through old conversations,<br>Not because you want to hold on, but because you&#8217;re trying to locate the crack,<br>Trying to find that one message, that single moment,<br>When everything began to fall apart,<br>The moment their words began to feel forced,<br>Their replies lost the warmth, and their \u201cgood mornings\u201d didn\u2019t feel the same.<br>Eventually, it dawns on you, not because someone told you,<br>But because you <em>feel<\/em> it,<br>They didn\u2019t forget you\u2026 they just stopped choosing you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They stopped replying,<br>Not necessarily because they were overwhelmed,<br>But perhaps because they no longer felt a need to keep you close.<br>They stopped showing up,<br>Not because their schedule changed,<br>But because their priorities shifted\u2026 and somehow,<br>You were no longer at the center.<br>And while you try to make sense of it,<br>You realize something even harder to accept,<br>They had already left you in their mind long before their silence reached your ears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And yes, I know,<br>That realization doesn\u2019t just hurt; it shatters.<br>It breaks your confidence into small, hard-to-piece-back-together pieces.<br>It makes you question if you were too much or maybe not enough.<br>You begin to wonder if it was your laugh, your timing, your softness, your flaws.<br>But let me tell you this, even if it\u2019s hard to believe,<br>Sometimes, their silence is the loudest answer you\u2019ll ever get.<br>Sometimes, people walk out without using the door,<br>Slipping through the cracks so quietly you blame yourself for not locking them in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They were likely waiting for you to end things,<br>So they wouldn&#8217;t have to be the villain in a story they already stopped reading.<br>Maybe, just maybe, they had someone else in mind,<br>Or perhaps they were just tired of holding on.<br>And although it hurts,<br>What you need to understand is that when someone stops watering the bond,<br>It doesn\u2019t matter how much love you pour in;<br>Eventually, the connection dries up, silent, cracked, and lifeless.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So what should you do?<br>You let them go.<br>And I don\u2019t mean you hit \u201cunfollow\u201d or delete their number,<br>Because we both know it\u2019s deeper than that.<br>I mean you release them from your expectations,<br>From your overthinking, from your late-night wishing and what-ifs.<br>You let them go from the altar you built in your mind,<br>Where you prayed they&#8217;d come back different,<br>Where you waited for a version of them that only existed in your hopes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Give them time, yes,<br>Not because you&#8217;re holding on,<br>But because letting go doesn\u2019t always happen overnight.<br>Give them the space they silently asked for,<br>Not to punish them, but to protect your peace.<br>Let them figure out what they want,<br>But don\u2019t lose yourself in their indecision.<br>Because here&#8217;s the truth:<br>You should never have to beg someone to love you right.<br>You should never have to fight to be chosen<br>By someone who once claimed you were everything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If they can live without you,<br>Then let them live, just not in your head,<br>Not in your heart, not in your sacred space.<br>If they can laugh without checking in,<br>If their world keeps turning while yours stands still,<br>Then it\u2019s not love you lost,<br>It\u2019s convenience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And yes, you gave so much,<br>You opened your heart wide enough for two,<br>Loved with no brakes, gave chances that exhausted your soul.<br>But don\u2019t regret any of it.<br>Because your love was real.<br>And that kind of love? It leaves fingerprints,<br>Even if they act like they\u2019ve washed their hands.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So please,<br>Don\u2019t keep watering a garden where nothing grows.<br>Don\u2019t keep building with someone who already packed their bags.<br>Don\u2019t write new chapters hoping they\u2019ll flip back to a page they tore out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Heal, even if it\u2019s slow.<br>Breathe, even when it hurts.<br>Speak kind words to yourself, even when your heart is quiet.<br>Because one day, and I promise you this,<br>Someone will show up and stay.<br>Not just when it\u2019s easy, not only when you\u2019re glowing,<br>But even in the hard, even in the messy,<br>Even when you\u2019re unsure of yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That person won\u2019t make you chase love.<br>They\u2019ll offer it freely,<br>And you won\u2019t have to wonder if you\u2019re enough,<br>Because they\u2019ll remind you every single day that you are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Until then,<br>Love yourself so deeply that walking away<br>Doesn\u2019t feel like a loss,<br>But a return,<br>A return to your peace,<br>Your power,<br>Your healing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Let them go.<br>Because what\u2019s truly meant for you will never leave quietly.<br>It won\u2019t fade like smoke or slip through your fingers.<br>It will stay.<br>It will fight.<br>And most importantly,<br>It will love you loudly,<br>Exactly the way you deserve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/walkingshadowpoetry.com\/blog\/\">Walking Shadow Poetry &#8211; Grow from what\u2019s meant to kill you.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/share\/p\/1AZdtmmxzP\">https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/share\/p\/1AZdtmmxzP<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"Rest in peace Spoken Word by walking shadow poetry Kenya\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/zENneXt5vjc?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>They might just fade away\u2026Not with fireworks or grand announcements,Not with explanations that wrap everything up with a neat bow,But with a silence that sneaks in slowly,A silence that starts small, missed calls, shorter texts, longer gaps,Until one day, you realize it&#8217;s not silence anymore&#8230; it&#8217;s absence At first, you might find yourself scrolling through [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2572,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[121,97,25,98],"tags":[49,34,67,50,61,55,53,22,48],"class_list":["post-3220","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-poem","category-poetry","category-solitude","category-storytime","tag-poetess","tag-poetry","tag-preciousowoko","tag-spokenword","tag-spokenwords","tag-stories","tag-story","tag-walkingshadowpoetry","tag-walkingshadowpoetrykenya"],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/walkingshadowpoetry.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/08\/pexels-photo-3754243.jpeg?fit=867%2C1300&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":3116,"url":"https:\/\/walkingshadowpoetry.com\/blog\/its-strange-really-by-walking-shadow-poetry\/","url_meta":{"origin":3220,"position":0},"title":"It\u2019s strange, really by Walking Shadow Poetry","author":"walking shadow poetry kenya","date":"March 13, 2025","format":false,"excerpt":"I\u2019m scared of being alone,Not the kind where you sit quietly for a while,But the kind that feels like a heavy shadow,Creeping in when no one\u2019s around. 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